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Can you really improve

your emotional

intelligence?

Some people question if emotional intelligence exists, but the consensus of experts think that EI is a real thing. Some people are convinced that emotional intelligence is simply just an extension of your personality. If it is just part of your personality, then it’s not much different from saying that you are just born with that emotional intelligence or you’re not. This is very depressing. Study after study has shown that emotional intelligence plays a big role in overall personal success. It works hand and hand with IQ. It does not hurt to be born with high IQ, this will open a lot of doors for you, but you cannot rely on it alone. IQ can only go so far. You may be a high IQ individual but if you are lazy, there would be less opportunities for you. You may be able to grasp otherwise complicated concepts very quickly but if you are unable to communicate with your emotions effectively, this inability is going to hamper your success. IQ does not exist in a vacuum. It coordinates with another important human skill set, emotional intelligence. The problem with positioning emotional intelligence as essentially arising out of personality is that it becomes random. You are left with the conclusion that either you’re born with emotional intelligence or you’re not. This flies in the face of evidence. Why? A lot of people who start out emotionally awkward or even socially incompetent become exceptionally smooth polished and effective when they find themselves in social settings. In other words, they chose to increase their emotional intelligence they chose to hone their skills. They did not wait for their own personality-based emotional intelligence to kick in. They took matters into their own hands. They know that they have issues dealing with other people, so they got the right information and they worked on this trait over an extended period of time until they got it right. In other words, building up emotional intelligence, if you look at it as an ability instead of some sort of built in, in born extension of your personality, is very much like working out in the gym. Do you remember the first time you went to the gym? It was probably hard on your body because you have not worked out before. But after two weeks of continuously hitting the weights, it got easier and easier and eventually you reach the point where you can scale up the weights. Now you’re probably lifting a lot more than when you started. The same applies to emotional intelligence. At first, it’s going to be downright scary. In fact, in certain cases it may seem downright pointless. But the more you keep at it and the better results that you get, the more you stick to it and the better you get at it. You create an upward spiral. So where is the ‘gym’ for building this EI? Well, for that you need to talk t someone who knows how the mind works, that’s a hypnotist. With the right focus and the right mindset, you can strengthen your mind and improve your EI. If you would like more information on how that works then connect with me via my contact me page and find out how best to change.