Tips to Using Humour to Resolve Conflict in Your

Relationship

The conflict has been brewing all day. The combatants are at crisis point, and it feels like the entire office is holding their collective breath waiting to see what happens next. At this point, they’re ready for bloodshed, or at the very least, some very strong words. The last thing they expect is for one of the key players in the conflict to open their mouth and… make a joke? Maybe it doesn’t feel like a resolution to the conflict, but actually, laughter goes far beyond being the clichéd ‘best medicine.’ How? First of all, laughter takes the tension out of the situation, which exactly is what’s needed to regain perspective, build stronger bonds, and yes, sometimes smooth over the differences. How then do you effectively use humour to resolve conflicts?

Make sure that both parties are ‘in on the joke.’

By keeping humour wholesome – not at the expense of the other person, you’re focusing on inviting them to laugh with you, rather than laughing at them. How can you tell if you’re doing it right? Humour is tricky, and so your best indicator of getting it right is to gauge the other person’s reactions. If they’re not laughing, chances are they don’t find it funny. Stop!

Check to make sure that you’re using humour as a positive tool.

If you’re using humour to mask emotions that you’d rather not deal with right now, then it’s time to take stock of what you’re doing. Stop immediately and ask yourself what it is that you’re not dealing with and why.

Work on that sense of humour. Every good comedian knows how to read their audience.

The same goes for using humour with another person, especially in a situation that’s already a conflict. Watch the nonverbal cues. What language are you using? Keep the tone positive and light and mean it. That means don’t use jokes as a means of cruelty. Lastly, consider what you might use as an inside joke. Inside jokes not only keep the situation light but create a deeper intimacy with whom you conflict.

Most importantly, be Playful! A little bit of silly fun is a good thing. Not sure how to tap into that kind of

fun and crazy side?

Explore humour in other ways so that you always have a repertoire to fall back on. Watch things you find funny on TV or in movies. Listen to jokes. Read the funnies. Find that side of you that likes to play and encourage it with creativity and fun. And no matter what, give yourself a break. It takes practice to be funny. Keep at it, and you’ll find your natural sense of humour, and be able to tap into it when you need to. That conflict won’t know what hit it! The bottom line is laughter is so much better than anger. Both come from within your unconscious. So helping to develop this can be aided by hypnosis – if you want more details on how that would work you can find details on how to contact me via my contact page.
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Tips to Using Humour to

Resolve Conflict in Your

Relationship

The conflict has been brewing all day. The combatants are at crisis point, and it feels like the entire office is holding their collective breath waiting to see what happens next. At this point, they’re ready for bloodshed, or at the very least, some very strong words. The last thing they expect is for one of the key players in the conflict to open their mouth and… make a joke? Maybe it doesn’t feel like a resolution to the conflict, but actually, laughter goes far beyond being the clichéd ‘best medicine.’ How? First of all, laughter takes the tension out of the situation, which exactly is what’s needed to regain perspective, build stronger bonds, and yes, sometimes smooth over the differences. How then do you effectively use humour to resolve conflicts?

Make sure that both parties are ‘in on the joke.’

By keeping humour wholesome – not at the expense of the other person, you’re focusing on inviting them to laugh with you, rather than laughing at them. How can you tell if you’re doing it right? Humour is tricky, and so your best indicator of getting it right is to gauge the other person’s reactions. If they’re not laughing, chances are they don’t find it funny. Stop!

Check to make sure that you’re using humour as a

positive tool.

If you’re using humour to mask emotions that you’d rather not deal with right now, then it’s time to take stock of what you’re doing. Stop immediately and ask yourself what it is that you’re not dealing with and why.

Work on that sense of humour. Every good comedian

knows how to read their audience.

The same goes for using humour with another person, especially in a situation that’s already a conflict. Watch the nonverbal cues. What language are you using? Keep the tone positive and light and mean it. That means don’t use jokes as a means of cruelty. Lastly, consider what you might use as an inside joke. Inside jokes not only keep the situation light but create a deeper intimacy with whom you conflict.

Most importantly, be Playful! A little bit of silly fun is

a good thing. Not sure how to tap into that kind of fun

and crazy side?

Explore humour in other ways so that you always have a repertoire to fall back on. Watch things you find funny on TV or in movies. Listen to jokes. Read the funnies. Find that side of you that likes to play and encourage it with creativity and fun. And no matter what, give yourself a break. It takes practice to be funny. Keep at it, and you’ll find your natural sense of humour, and be able to tap into it when you need to. That conflict won’t know what hit it! The bottom line is laughter is so much better than anger. Both come from within your unconscious. So helping to develop this can be aided by hypnosis – if you want more details on how that would work you can find details on how to contact me via my contact page.